Please be kind with me as I am new to this platform. I was at a club when a very handsome guy, totally my type, started dancing with me. I don’t know what gave me the courage to take the half finished beer from his hand and take a sip of it without asking. I then gave his beer back to him, and he said he had to go but will be right back. It was an excuse to stop dancing with me since he just stayed put in his friend group without going anywhere. I’ve been feeling really bad after that happened and would have danced the night away with him if I could. And now I have no idea what his name or phone number is, just keep replaying that night in my mind.
What is your opinion on a woman taking a man’s beer and having a sip without asking? Is it such an awful gesture that his sudden rejection was warranted? Was he angry, scared off, or just thought I was easy? I am not that type of person and had no ill intentions whatsoever. I just acted on natural impulse and was trying to be flirtatious. Thank you for any advice and comfort.
OP asked for possible reasons for why the man acted the way he did. It’s right there in the post that you apparently didn’t read. I offered one possible explanation based on experience.
I’ve repeatedly said that nobody owes anything to anyone else. You are the person who keeps suggesting that I said different. You seem like you’re trying to paint me into a corner to try and get me to say something that I didn’t. You’re either arguing in bad faith, or are incapable of understanding someone else’s point of view.
To clarify, yet again, the girls who would pull this trick would act as if they were interested in the guy that they chose, and were interested in sleeping with them. They were not interested in sleeping with them, they just wanted free drinks. The guys would find out at the end of the night that these girls were pretending to be interested just to get drinks, and would be annoyed that they had been tricked. At no point did anyone owe anything to anyone else.
A guy who had been tricked like this in the past might avoid anyone that he thinks might be trying it in the future.
Again, OP was clearly not doing this. I only offered this as a possible reason for the way that the guy in OP’s post had acted. It was based on my own experiences from running a nightclub for several years, and seeing people act the same way.
I resent the fact that you’re trying to twist my words to make it sound like I think that people owe other people sex, and I’m done with you. Go troll someone else.
Read this through again. Think about what you’re saying. To suggest it’s a ‘trick’ to accept a gift that’s offered without offering your own self as a reward. If you truly believe that women don’t owe men sex if they buy them a drink then why are you talking about it as if they’re not holding up their end of the bargain?
If someone lies to you, especially if it’s to trick you into giving them something, it’s ok to feel upset.
The only person who is constantly saying anything about people being owed sex is you. Seek help.
This isn’t nice to say to someone. Please, remember to be(e) nice when using Beehaw. Also, consider this a warning.
Fair enough.