• Tedesche@lemmy.world
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    17 days ago

    I mean that using a charged term to describe a trivial issue or problem is a form of hysteria and drama-seeking. The issue being cited in the image is trivial and—as pointed out by the response—maintained pretty much entirely by women. There’s a point at which you have to stop blaming things on gender inequalities, because regardless of whether or not they can be traced back to cultural conditioning, the simplest solution is that you personal responsibility and stop conforming to them. The problem isn’t that other women will criticize you for wearing the same dress twice; they’re problem is that you care.

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      17 days ago

      I have nearly zero respect for the intellectual capacity of someone who thinks that female gender roles are perpetuated mainly by women, and especially little respect for people who think they’re above social conditioning and that it should be a simple matter for others to shrug it off. It shows a shocking lack of self awareness.
      I don’t think there is value in continuing this discussion with you.

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        16 days ago

        I didn’t say I thought that female gender roles are perpetuated mainly by women. That’s a blanket statement that I would never make. I said the specific practice cited in this post is maintained by women—because it is. Men don’t punish women socially for wearing the same dress on two different occasions.

        Nor do I think women should be immune to social conditioning; all of us are influenced by it. But I reject the notion that we’re entirely imprisoned by it. When you’re aware of it, you can work on reprogramming yourself and rejecting it. And you know what? That’s far more effective than expecting the world to change to suit your preferences.

        Paint me as a misogynistic POS in your own head all you like; I know I’m not. I’m sorry the nuance here was too much for you.

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            15 days ago

            Your imaginary conclusions are not mine. Seriously, you think yourself an amazingly progressive person, but you’re just as vulnerable to stereotypical thinking as those you despise. My advice to you is that you tend your own gardens before you cast aspersions towards those who disagree with you on nuanced issues. You’re letting your anger make a fool of yourself here. Stop. Think. Be better.

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              15 days ago

              you are inferior for casting aspersions on me, but the aspersions I cast on you show me to be superior

              Great job dude.
              I can see why you are unable to connect the dots between men setting up the conditions that pressure women to turn in each other, and the women who actually turn on each other.

              Great talk 👋👋👋

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                15 days ago

                Oh yeah, it was certainly men alone who “set up” those conditions for women, not a natural consequence of male-female relations that date back to times prior to human civilization.

                Blame men for every little thing women go through all you want. I’m tired of hearing about it. Ta-ta.