Why is it that compared to other mental illness’s like depression, ADHD, autism and anxiety people seem to be so hostile to NPD? I always see things about ‘mental health awareness’ yet this is never applied to personality disorders.
Just look up “narcissism”, “NPD” or “narcissistic personality disorder” and the results are about how dangerous people with NPD are and how to spot somebody with NPD or if your ex boyfriend is a narcissist etc… etc…
I was watching this video earlier by a YouTube user ‘ShortFatOtaku’ called “Low IQ Twitter Discourse Awards!” and there was this one guy on twitter who said that if you claim advocate for the mentally ill you such do so with personality disorders as well. A statement I completely agree with:
https://youtu.be/3EJedJ8MhNA YouTube
ShortFatOtaku response with “wow your going to let that narcissist kill you and take everything from you?” I shouldn’t have to explain how bad faith and unhinged that is.
Why do people think this way about narcissists? Having NPD doesn’t make someone an inherently bad person. As someone who has NPD I haven’t abused or manipulated anyone ever. Sure, I struggle with empathy, I have to make an effort to think about other people and ok I have a never ending need for validation but that doesn’t mean I’m a bad person I understand I have a problem I didn’t choose to be like this. Manipulation and grandiosity are awful traits that I have but they don’t define me. I’m a good friend, I’m a good sister, I’m a good coworker and there are people out there who benefit from my existence. NPD doesn’t have to define me I’m more then my diagnosis.
As others have written it’s deconstructive towards other people plus NPD are hard to make understand their behaviour is problematic. In their view you are the problem if you have a problem with them. Depression, ADHD and other things do not have that trait. With them you can talk them into therapy and about potential problems they are causing.
You’re doing a lot of generalizing in this post. You seem to think you know though profess of everyone ever diagnosed with NPD.
If you are interested in NPD you could really read up on the topic. If you want to know if you have npd symptoms I would suggest to ask people who you trust and who know you well. Ask them, then listen carefully, and if 3 independent people tell you what they think of you, believe them.
Do not ask them suggestive questions, but try to ask fields or topics that npd people can have symptoms or indicators in.
I already know I have NPD and I’m not risking my friends and family finding out about my diagnosis. You’ve seen the rest of this thread haven’t you? NPD is so stigmatized that it would ruin my social life if it came out. All I have is my social life
I haven’t seen this thread. I read only the top comment, then wrote mine.
If you know you have npd you are about 2000 times better than most people who have it, as you have said it’s not a good thing to be diagnosed with it and yet you acknowledge that you have it. That’s like you are able to acknowledge that you are not unfailable or perfect.
If you really care about your friends and family you should look into therapy.
Thank you for your comment. We need more people like you. People who can see past my diagnosis and understand that I’m a person with flaws like anyone else.
Yet I still think you would massively profit from therapy :)
I’m looking into getting a therapist soon