• FUCKRedditMods@lemm.ee
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      I hate that evolutionary part of me that cares about having sex/a mate so much that I actually allow myself to become depressed based on the goddamn preferences of one person.

      For years the only happiness I’ve found has been by removing myself from the market entirely and just writing off the notion of being with someone, a “with no hope/expectations there is no letdown” kind of thing.

      I was carrying on just fine like this until I got a beautiful new coworker a few months ago who laughs at even my worst jokes like it’s going out of style. Alas though I’m sure she likes me I know I’m too old for her so here I am just unusually unhappy in my solitude for the first time in years. Ugh, is it time to get on tinder? I fucking hate the whole enterprise of dating.

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        Idk if dating is inherently bad, but the soulcrushing drive for profit that has consumed modern dating has defintely made it horrible.

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        Sounds like you don’t have friends and you expect your partner to be your only source of emotional support. You should fix that before you try to be in a romantic relationship.

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            Cute. I’m not the one who needs to date someone to be happy.

            I hate that evolutionary part of me that cares about having sex/a mate so much that I actually allow myself to become depressed based on the goddamn preferences of one person.

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              Okie dokie everyone, canuckkat is the best of us, he has never felt down for want of a relationship with someone. He just has SO many friends that he’s immune to romantic emotions.

              “Just get more friends bro”

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                Not even a he 🤣

                And actually, my friends do fulfill 70% of my emotional needs and I’m pretty good at fulfilling my own needs as well. I have zero desire for a romantic relationship or connection at this point in my life.

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        Alas though I’m sure she likes me I know I’m too old for her so here I am just unusually unhappy in my solitude for the first time in years.

        Just ask her if she knows of any single women your age she can set you up with. If she really likes you, she’ll tell them what a great person you are. Or maybe she can give you tips about where to meet someone, how to ask someone out, etc.

        Don’t despair for having a potentially good friendship, those can be just as valuable as physical relationships.

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        I agree with others, man. What’s the age difference? Because I understand someone being too young (I’m 28 and I’m not sure I could date someone under 24 for example). Just very curious! You never know

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        I hate that evolutionary part of me that cares about having sex/a mate so much that I actually allow myself to become depressed based on the goddamn preferences of one person.

        Hate to break it to you, but you framing this as in inherent part of yourself does not really help in dealing with it. It is something you can absolutely work on and for the sake of your mental health I hope you will be able to do that.

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          Because this isn’t someone who hates women. This is someone who simply gave up looking for a partner from frustration or depression. Now, they are deciding to change and passively asking for advice. You know, positive personal growth.

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      It’s a fictional diary entry, from The Prestige. The next entry is 2 months later, when he’s fallen in love with a different woman.

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            Oh I didn’t know that was based on a novel, thanks! But that entry must be meant to be hilarious, was the novel comedic?

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              The novel is made extra strange by a modern day framing story starting the last living ancestors of the two magicians. I read it 20+ years ago and remembered it as a strange book. The movie was excellent and made the whole story make much more sense overall.

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                Oh what? Interesting, That’s making the novel sound more interesting to me. It’s funny, I coincidentally watched the movie again for the first time since it came out just a couple weeks ago.

                Thanks

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                  It’s not bad, the modern frame doesn’t even really change the feel of the story, although the way the rest of the story is presented is also complicated. I recommend reading it, especially if you’ve seen the movie and enjoyed it.

                  I was grateful the movie simplified the presentation so that you could really focus on the underlying interesting bits. I left the novel still a little confused as to WTF was going on some regards and the movie makes the essential plot reveals much easier to follow.

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              I haven’t actually read the novel version, just seen the movie enough times to know this wasn’t in it and that there was a novel