I don’t mean to give you unrequested advice so apologies if I come across as dismissive of your experience. I just feel like I can add some points that people in your situation might benefit from.

And that is to not chase love in itself. I found that as I got older I also accepted that I would grow old without a romantic relationship. Though I did invest time in my friendship relationships, and that did work.

While being somewhat saddened by it, I accepted that the chances of me finding love through dating apps was low, in particular because I don’t want to have kids, which obviously is a deal-breaker for many people. So my approach there was to just try to enjoy the moment without expectations and without judgement. If I got a match I’d try to have a fun conversation, if it was fun I’d try to set up a date, and if that was fun I’d keep it going. Just going for having an enjoyable time at that moment without expectations. It made even the dates that weren’t going anywhere long term enjoyable experiences, with the occasional opportunity for physical intimacy with someone who was on the same page about expectations. I could have lived like that but just got plain lucky this year I think. For me it still feels amazing to have happened so I’m not going to type lies and say it will happen for everyone. But I went into this relationship with no expectations either so regardless of what happens in the future I will treasure what is happening now, as I’m a relationship with the most amazing woman who adores aspects of me that would often be things other dates told me made me seem immature and obsessive.

So, you and people that relate to you, I genuinely wish you happiness and good things. In all aspects of life. But please don’t give up on meeting new people if you can, you might make someone else happy just by existing. Or if not you could at least give them a nice date.

That screen didn’t exist in Win XP. If it had, it would have been a different shade of blue. This is either Win10 though I suspect it’s Win11.

Thanks, will check that out.

Command line stuff on Windows (server) is in a pretty decent state now, imo. It’s not perfect but more and more is manageable with powershell. It took some time to really grok that you’re basically always working with objects but I’m a big fan and now quite dislike having to deal with just “text” output when I do something in Linux. (Probably also because I need to do a lot less in it so I’m not used to it as much)

Personally again I also like the naming scheme much more than how it’s done in bash. If I need to do something I don’t know I can search the command by using logical words. E.g. I want to change the properties of a service but don’t know the command by heart I can use

Get-Command service

And I’ll get a list of all commands that contain the word service.

When it comes to admin privileges you simply have the privileges of the account you used to start the session, which has its’ own dangers I suppose since it requires you to maintain account hygiene yourself.

Once they’ve reached your desired ripeness you can slow down them getting overripe in the fridge.

Do you still have carpets? I find that carpets are much bigger indicators of whether my dust mite allergy will kick up rather than visible dust that’s flowing around. Best of luck in any case.

Oh I know not to fight when something is lost, but in nogi my shit just gets wrecked superfast because it’s so explosive and people treat your neck like it’s a handle.

I’ve been doing martial arts in general for almost 30 years now, and I definitely was too careless when I was young. Bad advice about injuries where I got sent to a chiropractor instead of a surgeon meant I already had to get hip surgery before I had turned 40. (Bad FAI angles aggravated by trying to break through the pain, for over a decade, since I believed everyone I was being lazy and soft) I’m luckily more careful now, but there’s still days where I’m in pain just from walking or driving my car.

BJJ will keep you mentally young but your body will start feeling a lot older. Upside is that it’ll be able to do more cool stuff.

Yeah Rottweilers are herding dogs, they herd children too and just love leaning into you. Herd dogs also protect their pack so they do need training and an owner who knows what they’re doing on top of extensive socialising.

I wish I could say the same but if you want to date you have to here. I despise and absolutely hate how you have to you use a phone number to register. And then every contact you have can add you to a group so everyone there now can have your number.

I’ve had a stalker before and I hate that stuff like that makes it trivially easy for her to get my number again. I literally can’t understand how women are okay with absolutely shitty systems like this. I really can’t repeat enough how much I strongly hate WhatsApp and how everyone else thinks it’s so good for exactly the reason that I hate it. It’s too easy to send messages despite me never giving you my number to begin with. SMS is the same but you can’t add me to a group without my permission and share my number with a group of people I don’t know.

Yes, MM DD YY only makes sense when you’re speaking

For many people it doesn’t. It’s something that’s exclusive to the US. In British English it’s day before month when speaking.

It’s something that is taught in school as “remember that the Americans say date before month so you don’t get confused”. But in a business context it’s bloody annoying you don’t switch to the international standard.

In British English you say the date before the month as well. I know that even saying the month first sounds very jarring too me.

I paid for sync for Reddit, I donated to my Lemmy instance and I’ll pay for Sync for Lemmy once I decide for myself whether I take the subscription, simply ad free or one time payment for ultra. As there’s still fixes to the pricing going on I’ll wait out for that

I guess I’m biased with paying for software since I work at a company that makes software it also offers in its’ own SaaS platform. I literally maintain the infrastructure so I’m intimately familiar with those costs. I appreciate anyone who offers software and service for free. But there’s always a cost and if you want premium service you’ll need to pay for it.

That is ofcourse another justification and easy one since paying for sync is almost nothing to me. I do hope the free Sync keeps being a good alternative for anyone who wants to try it.

Not caring what you do on your pc, within reason, is not the same as not monitoring for dangerous actions that could endanger your network or company (and client data). I don’t care what my colleagues do on their pc either. As long as it doesn’t cause me more work.

Logging security incidents is work. So we do block a lot of websites and keep an eye on what you try to run. If we see something wrong we just talk to you and explain why we don’t want you to do that. 99,9% of the time everybody is happy after that.

The idea of this being something you can get fired for or that’s taken into consideration for your evaluation is insane though. We have rights as workers. Keeping the network safe means I can see some extent of what you do. Your boss or their boss has no right to that information unless you state you will continue endangering the network. Even in that case I wouldn’t even tell them the websites tbh.

Security software isn’t tracking software. It should be able to hook into every current semi popular browser without you being able to disable it.

On the other hand, allowing users who don’t know the answer to the question you’re asking to both install VPN software and allow them this kind of traffic is a compliance violation to begin with.

Having a talk about it doesn’t mean they care. They’d just want you to stop doing that on the work network.

If you’re using company hardware on a company network and our security software says you’re visiting ransomware like URLs, it’s very much legal monitoring as it’s for a technical reason. It’s probably mandatory since you need to do this to protect the personal data your company stores.

More often than not you probably signed a document stating you understood and accepted this.

Cooking a fresh steak to 63 degrees sounds like a waste of money to me. ( And so does cooking chicken to 70) But I think we can all agree to that because we know those are the temperatures that indicate safety if it reaches that for 1 second. And lower temperatures over time are also good.

Generally I prefer reverse searing steak because it allows for a tender perfect inside with a hard crust and no gradients in the doneness. But if I don’t have time for that (or for a sous vide waterbath) I just cook straight out of the fridge in a cast iron while flipping every thirty seconds. And for anyone doubting that flipping 30 seconds is superior to not touching it before flipping once: your steaks will be less evenly cooked which I don’t like but you are free to do so ofcourse. Read Kenji’s article on it if you don’t believe me: https://www.seriouseats.com/the-food-lab-flip-your-steaks-and-burgers-multiple-times-for-better-results

A fresh steak should be safe to eat raw. I’ve never heard of a target temp for food safety for steak either tbh.

If anything bringing steak to “room temp” would be more likely to bring it in a danger zone.