I’m sure wondering why they built that.

Perhaps this is the perspective people need.

I think your mentality is great. I’ve heard people say, “Sure I’ll eat a burger, but what kind of psychopath wants to kill an animal themselves?”

I don’t know, what kind of a psychopath pays an industry to do it for them so they don’t have to feel bad about it? Look, I get it, I don’t hunt. But I respect the people who respectfully end the animal’s life themselves. Only they can really understand the cost. We just throw away some old chicken we forgot to cook while passing judgment on who we paid to get it for us and how they did it.

Yeah the thing that is so hard is that none of the individual actions feel successful. But overtime they pay off. You have to build a guest house for happiness and keep it clean. So the next time he shows up, maybe he’ll stay awhile.

I’ve used Blender for years. Recently I was looking for a video editor. Somebody suggested use Blender. I thought, okay this will be funny, let’s try it. Don’t get me wrong Premier (best IMO) is better if you can get it for free. But damn… it was actually comparable!!

Welcome to the internet, where people try their best to find people with the same opinions so they can feel good and get pissed when they can’t.

I love the theory of a really effective government that can produce things that are consistently better than private corporations. But that’s just never been my experience. In fact, it feels like the bigger a government gets the worst it operates. So how would you imagine a government that produces all the products and services for a society better than a free market?

I mean, some people genuinely don’t get it. If you’ve got a good answer, give it.

Or simply emoji based “reactions” like in most messaging platforms. This user friendly and immediately understandable system invites many ways to express how you feel about a comment. I think the community would eventually develop a sort of nuanced language to capture how we feel about a comment. Like “we all know what 🏴‍☠️ means.” But perhaps this is too abstract.

I don’t think it needs to be our goal, but I think if the fediverse gets popular, we should let it grow. I see this place as an infinite green space for people to come and feel free to discuss their interests. Lemmy’s communities ensure that it scales, because you only join ones that interest you. Then the community can enforce whatever spirit of discussion it wants to maintain and people can create another community if they want to try something different.

Well at this point they might be the weird one if they’re named Anna.

For real. One of the best books in the lore and an amazing game in it’s own right. But it felt like they were obligated to cover it. They were like, "how can we show this on screen for as little time as possible. "

Isn’t that the art piece? That it’s being sexist in a way that’s impacted women… But in a way that’s obvious to men? Yeah it’s clearly sexist. That’s messed up. That’s the point.

True that it doesn’t mention the sexiest things that affect men and other women. But not every art piece has to capture every element of the human experience. This was focused on one point.

Small, good value, quiet, power efficient, built in battery backup and server terminal. Laptops are dope for home labs!

True but most people are in that middle group of users. I thought my mom would always be below it, so I set her up with Ubuntu and showed her how to open the web browser. But it wasn’t long before her siblings were suggesting she install a mahjong app to play with them, or goofy camera filters for their video calls. After being reasonably sure they weren’t spyware, I still had to break the bad news to her: “Sorry mom, Windows only.”

She’s currently running a refurbished ThinkPad with Windows 10 pro.

But I think we can criticize our government without acting like we live in a 3rd world country. America is among the highest quality of life for the average citizen. Imagine how we must sound to someone in an actual 3rd world country. Like a BMW driving trust fund kid complaining that daddy is a billionaire and we’re only millionaires. I agree that policies here affect the rest of the world. So we should do everything in our power to make this place better. But it’s disingenuous to act like we don’t still have a lot of opportunities.

Men tend to trend more irresponsible, women more neurotic, in my experience. There’s plenty of exceptions, but on the whole that’s what I’ve seen. Neither is good, both can collapse a relationship. In straight relationships this can result in women taking on everything. Even where she’s overcome (or not originally had) any neuroticism, a sufficiently irresponsible man can still put the problem on her shoulders.
What I think you’re omitting is that this can happen in reverse.

Even when a man overcomes (or didn’t originally have) any irresponsibility, a sufficiently neurotic woman can still put all the problems on him. He has to pull the tasks away from her because she thinks only she can do it ‘right’. Only then can he pull his weight. But he then must also do the dance of convincing his partner that he’s doing a good job, or she’ll just feel compelled to do the work again herself.

Of course most relationships are somewhere between these extremes. And some even see the roles reversed. People are, of course, extremely diverse. But this is a common pattern I’ve seen.

Recontextualizing helps me a lot in these situations. So if I’m in your shoes I’d think: The new problem is that I don’t know if I can solve the original problem. Can I do something about that? Yes. Set aside time to focus on it, brainstorm, research, etc. If that comes up fruitful, I’ll do what I found, don’t worry. If it doesn’t, then there’s nothing to do, don’t worry.

You can set a point in the future to revisit and see if anything’s changed, based on how persistent this problem is in your life.

In practice this is easier said than done, of course. I fail to do it sometimes. But it’s a solid strategy that has helped me find a lot of peace. Give it a go!

Exactly, I’ve worked so hard and come so far to reach peace. It feels impossible to retrace all those steps with someone who’s barely willing. But at least I can be her stability.