I really understand you and given your personal experience (and pain), your reaction might be a bit too confrontational but certainly understandable. I am sorry if I said anything that opened old wounds in you.

I obviously think accepting oneself is very important. I would be never deny the possibility of they being trans. I wasn’t and aren’t aware how often “femboy” is a expression of denialism, or if I misunderstood you, the more appropriate term. Thanks for clueing me in.

That being said, I don’t think I denied the possibility of him being trans but argued for accepting them in public discours however they identify. That doesn’t mean you can talk about the general tendency of closeted trans women in regards of being femboys in public. But maybe not about specific people. I am not affected and can’t tell, but I am really scared that arguing in public without the required context could be a way to unintentionally teach harmful behavior to people, naming publicly doubting and creating a somewhat hostile environment. I am cis straight but it doesn’t take me much empathy to find tears for the pain in the heart of the people we talk about. I just wanna less their pain and maybe that leads on the long term wrong path.

I wanna tell you good bye and hope to read you here again. I wish you happiness. Take care, sister.

I am happy that you care but you realize that I didn’t express that he shouldn’t get hrt. The person expressed that they are one and in public discours it is good to accept them like that. If the discussion would be about hrt, I would see where you are coming from to express your assumption but in this case, it is just not really accepting them. It is “I know better, you trans” over a concern that is in the context not expressed and visible.

Remember that trans people and “femboys” might read this and your words to me, a cis man, could impact them, that is why I am insist on calling him what he expressed, fictional or not.

Your concern is accepting and welcoming and trans people probably appreciate your concern and a “femboy” might understand you and accept that it isn’t a dismissal of him but a accepting of a trans person. But unstated, it will be read differently.

Take care.

He is what he says he is. Please be accepting.

If you see paying for sexual services as consensual, he probably did.

If you don’t, he probably didn’t.

I think “alienated” is a strong indicator of the negative perspective of the Author to the written text. I don’t think people use “alienated” in a positive setting. So I don’t think it is misleading at all, tbh

There is a difference.

A lot of people who claim to be liberal, just aren’t left wing. The good example is the FDP party in Germany.

To quote Wikipedia: The FDP’s political position has variously been described as centrist, centre-right, and right-wing. The FDP has been described as liberal, conservative-liberal, classical-liberal, and liberal-conservative. Other sources have described the party as libertarian or right-libertarian.

There are left wing liberals, but don’t act like they usually call themselves liberal.

Which is?

Now I feel guilty. Love to you my friend

No pressure but where meme 👀

That is American horrors. Fucking land of the free 🦅🦅🦅

My message to him as a straight guy:

It is fine to be bi. Suck dick if you like it. Enjoy!

Honestly it is embarrassing. Fucking over a literal hero because he is gay???

I guess he isn’t into the submissive type.

Being corrected on a German industry norm, how does that feel? A little ironic, maybe?

Also imagine paying a creator of the media that you consume and not a platform which scams an agency which scams the creator.

How horrible…

Honestly people are fucking weird. What is wrong with actually supporting the creator?

Out of curiosity towards your moral model, as you seem comfortable with person A killing person B because person B doesn’t give you the rights that you want to have. Does that mean that you would be fine if someone killed you because you don’t grant Palestinians the right to live? Just wondering.

These posts are motivating

I want to help you understand the situation and why people say what they say. Then you can better judge the situation for yourself and make your own decisions.

Situation “your own house”: You want to buy a house but you don’t have the money because… Wtf is the housing market??? 100k for a cardboard box??? So you lent money from your bank to pay for the house. With interest, you pay maybe e.g. 70% more than what you lent. And it takes you 30 years to do so. You might lose your job and have to save a little extra to cover those times and maybe the bank let’s you miss a payment once. After 30 years, you have now a house that needs some repairs but you got more money in your wallet because you are done paying the bank. So you do some repairs and it cost you money, maybe you need a small loan again. Eventually, you are retired and you have less money but you don’t have to repair your house anymore. Sure, there are some issues but the heater will manage another 10 years. You don’t have to worry too much because you don’t have to maintain it after your death. You don’t need to save for a new roof in 5 years when you are 95yo. You can make the call that you don’t care.

So in other words, you pay a little less than 70% more than the value of the house and afterwards you paid for YOUR UTILITY. Every repair was between you and future you.

Situation “I rent to you”: I am buying the house and of course, I am lent the money as it is financially easier and in some places, gives me tax cuts. I buy a house and I too pay 70% interest on it. I need to get the money to pay for my loan. I am not a asshole but also not a saint. So what is pretty fair? Mhm… You, as my renter, pay my loan back! If i ask less, I am literally losing money. But wait, you might move out at any time and I need to pay my loan, so I am asking a little extra… Just in case. But then there are repairs and someone needs to pay for those, so maybe a little extra. Okay now, you are paying for everything! I am safe and sound. After 30 years, you paid back my loan and I own the place. I am getting old and I let my son take care of the business. He takes good care of the house and makes sure that all the repairs are done. He is earning so extra money too as well the loan is paid back. He is looking for a new house for all his children and a big nice garden. With his day job and your rent, his bank gives him a big amount of money that he spends on a beautiful house, he gets the house as he has the cash. You are getting older and you retire, but your rent is not going down. If you could have bought the house 50 years ago, it would have been yours, but it isn’t and you are paying the new loan of my son. The heater could use a replacement in the next 10 years but you really don’t have the money for that but it isn’t your decision, my son wants to rent out the house another 50years if possible. My son feels forced to look for a new renter as you don’t have the money to pay for the new loan and the repairs. He kicks you out. You are homeless. You pay off the loan and some of another loan but you are homeless.

Now that story wasn’t even about actively trying to make money but not wanting to take a risk for someone else.

Most landlords want to make some money.

Honestly I don’t get the OF hate in general. We all have watched porn and we probably liked at least some of what we have seen. What is wrong about earning a living with producing what other people want and like? And as I don’t think, we argue about people consuming porn but about paying for it, what the fuck is wrong with paying the content creator? Why do we prefer paying agencies with ad revenue while the agency effectively scams their talent? Why no ads but cash? Why agency and not talent?

Jealousy.