dianne

What exactly is an “emotional outburst” for you?

There are a lot of things this could mean, ranging from more benign (sobbing) to extreme or scary (throwing things or screaming or worse)

If it’s anywhere near the latter then you need to figure out how to manage those symptoms of your mental illness before you’re ready for a relationship.

I love nuud, I keep telling people about it but it’s like shouting into a void for some reason. It takes us forever to get through a tube because it lasts so long (I usually go between 4-5 days between putting it on). It also cuts through my boyfriend’s spice which is great for me lol. Best deodorant ever.

I have mentioned it to one of my friends a few times (who tends to have a bit of bo) and she always just brings up how great arm and hammer deodorant is. Idk I don’t want to be like “but dude you smell”

Right, Halloween decorations were meant to be year round

A few big ones really stuck with me.

As a child, it wasn’t a complicated dream, but I was dreaming that I was wearing roller skates and a rabbit was pushing me up and up and up a hill, and then pushed me off a cliff. I woke up on the floor.

Past decade, I had a dream about this really abusive ex and his family. We were out on the ocean on these little crappy rafts, and for some reason he and I were in a fridge as a boat. I feel out I think, and there were whales in the water. They grabbed my arms and started pushing me down, and down, and down, and then let go and I just kept going down and then I woke up.

I have had a few more deep ocean dreams but they trigger such a huge fear response (have thalassophobia) that they now always become a lucid dream and I switch to flying to get away from the water.

Past couple of years, I had this really weird one, there was a grim reaper kind of thing following me around wherever we went and it was terrifying. He was just everywhere I went in the dream. I was in the car and we were driving past our city hall and he was on the steps. I had had enough, I made my bf stop driving, I got out, and ran up the steps toward it shouting, “FUCK YOU, FUCK YOU, FUCK YOU!” I woke up actually in the middle of yelling the third one IRL 😆

Oh and a weird random not quite a dream. About 15 years ago one night I woke in the middle of the night during a dream, and there was this bright vivid scene still in my eyes just hanging in the air in front of me for a good minute, it was crazy, it faded and I got up because I was in disbelief that it had happened. Just a weird brain didn’t turn off the dream thing entirely I guess

I have no idea. My brother is 10 years older than I am, (so he’s 49, I’ll be 39 in a few months) and it was definitely something he let me play, I just have no idea what it could possibly have been. I’ve had a controller (keyboard and mouse mostly now) in my hands my entire life lol

I mean I’m gonna be 40 in a couple of years and I am not a mature adult. I think maturity might be a lie we tell the young adults tbh.

I think a little bit it’s just that people typically like labels. They want to fit neatly into their little labeled box and the more labels they have, the more unique and/or complete they feel.

I really rejected labels as a teen, I hated the idea of it. Now I realize they can be useful for some things, and you know, if my trans brother feels better because his label is now male, that’s fine it doesn’t hurt me any to call him what makes him feel good.

Yes kill with kindness was going to be my suggestion. I also agree with not interacting with her unless she’s directly trying to discuss something with you.

Also, if she says you’re doing something wrong, instead of just trying harder or ignoring her, just ask her to show you the best way to do it. People like people who ask them for favors, and this might make her warm up to you some. If it’s bad enough that you don’t want to be at work, you could also consider asking for a shift change. Be kind, be as strong as you can manage, and ignore if you need to.

US here, wasn’t taught until high school