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  • The hope comes from the fact that we all have some degree of narcissism. It’s an aspect of humanity. NPD is when a person’s narcissism gets so big and unruly that it controls them and ruins their life.

    The reason this is hopeful is that our culture is full of exercises and practices designed to counteract and transcend narcissism.

    Someone with NPD may have a lot more work to do, but the kind of work they need to do is just an extreme version of the kind of work we all need to do in order to keep that particular demon at bay.


  • When I was in college in the early 2000s, I took psychology classes.

    In one class the professor told us that one of the best predictors of NPD was describing the disorder to someone and then asking them “Do you have this?”

    According to that professor, NPD sufferers were more likely than most other disorders to recognize it in their self.

    This directly contradicts what you just said about it.





  • This:

    The solution was to start lying, manipulating, trying to get something (anything) going their way, seeking validation

    Is a collection of reasons to be wary of this person. Validation’s not so bad, unless the person gets toxic about how they seek it. But being lied to, manipulated, spending time with someone who has to shape situations into their image, that’s a cost to people who experience it.