Came here to see discussions about the truly insane case mentioned in the article. Actually found an entire comment section full of ‘not all men’ vs ‘basically all men’ threads

The difficulty is asking people to get started with this. People want to get to work/navigate as quickly as possible to where they need to be, they don’t want to be figuring it out. Social media can be janky and you’ll be patient, but if you’re late for something because you’re struggling to adjust to an app you’re more likely to go back to Google/Apple Maps

Kanye still gets features and collaborators despite his Nazi turn. All the major rappers associated with him chose silence over condemnation. Biggie would most likely make the same choice with Diddy

The start of the headline lured me in for the biggest WTF moment I’ve had in ages. I’ll be sweating bullets the next time I see something about a former model/Miss-Wherever

The '90s was 30 years ago. In the '90s the '60s were 30 years ago, so I think the analogy holds up

I assume they only ever watched the awful 2001 version, which has a more faithful ending to the original Planet of the Apes book than the 1968 film. In the book it’s also an alien planet, rather than Earth.

They probably never bothered to watch the 60s film and just assumed that they knew what was happening because the ending is so iconic and has been widely parodied for 50+ years.

But does that auto accept cookies like many of these other anti cookie banner extensions?

I don’t know you but my advice is that you talk to a therapist before you condemn yourself to a life of unhappiness. What you’re thinking about yourself is not always objective, even if you think it is. Being self-critical is not the same as being realistic

Thing is, sex is not a privilege. If you - as someone in such a situation as OP - can’t accept that, you are in danger of growing… hateful views.

No one is entitled to sex, I agree. But in a relationship, you are allowed to make clear what your needs are and move on if those needs aren’t being met. It’s not entitlement to know what you want. Having a ‘dead bedroom’ is why a lot of relationships end.

I don’t want to become such a person, and it’s clear that it’s not their fault that they are not attracted to me. Realizing this helped me accept it.

If I may ask, was there any physical attraction between you two when you met?

I’m not denying that ace spectrum people have relationships and settle down as well. But OP is asking about the normative (read allosexual) experience and explicitly mentions physical attraction.

The vast majority of relationships will involve physical attraction and sex. It’s highly unusual for that to not be the case for allosexual people. That’s not a value judgement—if a minority of allo people find something else works for them, then that’s great. But if OP is asking if this is normal, then no it’s not. Even ‘less attractive’ people, as OP put it, find people they’re attracted to enough to enjoy a lifetime of intimacy and sex with.

Overcoming a lack of physical attraction is a pretty big barrier and I can’t see most people overcoming that barrier just to ‘settle down.’ Not being your physical ideal is one thing, most of us settle down with people who don’t look like models or actors, but finding someone physically unattractive is a tough sell in most cases.

If you don’t find someone physically attractive, how do you settle down with them? Do you just accept getting into bed with someone you’re physically repulsed by every night?

“Autistically smart”?? There are many words in the English language that describe extreme/unusual intelligence. There’s no need to perpetuate stereotypes just to do so

I can still hear this in George’s voice

Hungry for blood

The fresh prince is an ancient text now. It’s a few lines on the wikipedia page of the guy who slapped that other guy at the Oscars

‘Peoples is peoples’ apparently. What’s not to get?

They actually know a lot of stuff is harmless but it’s Security Theatre that was meant to make people feel better about flying after 9/11

Spent a bit of time customising it when I got it, and it’s saved me so much frustration over the past year. Copy pasting, tabbing, having an undo via keyboard, moving character with an arrow. I enjoy typing with a touchscreen now. Would recommend it to anyone wholeheartedly.

F is for phenomenal

J is for genius

The past decade has given us the start of a really misleading children’s ABC book

I think there’s some truth to being afraid to give up. But I can’t see myself in any other industry, and I am proud of my work whenever I see it in production/being used irl. So that makes me think I’d always enjoy being involved with building stuff in some way.

In response to your last question, it might be both. I think my current job is a push factor, and the new field is a pull factor. As other commenters have rightly pointed out, I’m not enjoying my job. I don’t know if that means it’s wrong to recognise the signs that I might not be as motivated as I should be, though.