does kagi spit out location-relevant information? that’s something I’ve really missed on startpage, I like being able to just google “chinese food” and have the restaurants near me spit back out, and if a privacy-centered search engine can return a result comparable to something like google there that’d make me real happy
I think the observation that there’s more subs than doms, generally speaking, is a salient one and one worth keeping in mind. I honestly wish I had been told that when I was looking actively for a dominant partner because like, yeah you’re almost definitely right it’s just not something I’d ever really thought about bc it’s so much easier to contextualize your own struggle than try to think about the bigger picture
I’m masc presenting and I was worried for a while that women tended to not like submissive men, which was really discouraging for me. I found my current partner though, who does, and that’s really changed my perspective. I’m not remarkable in any means (I’m 6’ tall but not conventionally attractive, not thin/don’t have tremendous muscle. Just kinda average) but my perspective has changed from “women don’t like submissive men” to “lots of women do like submissive men, there’s just 1) not a ton of them, 2) they don’t tend to advertise it the same way men do, and 3) they don’t tend to look as intently as submissive men do for dominant partners” – partially because there’s just less dominant women, and partially because I think they find long-term partners that meet those needs and that’s it for them
I’m not gonna tell you it’s easy, it’s not, but I’m a thoroughly unremarkable person that was pretty comfortably in your shoes for a long time and then I lucked out into my partner. The best advice I can give is being a decent person goes a long way towards smoothing over any concerns with dom/sub dynamics, and if that dynamic is important to you it’s good to be open to talking about it even if it results in failure. Find spaces where advertising that is beneficial too, join your local kink community – I’ve been to a few kink events, namely just sloshes and munches, casual stuff out at a bar. Nothing tremendously freaky, but it’s a good place to find women that might be more interested in someone that identifies themselves as a sub. Good luck!!
Ooh, is there a way to do this with Spotify? I have such a hard time committing to making playlists, getting an ai to start them for me would actually be awesome
Shift your frame of reference from caring about losing to caring about improving. If you care about improving, both losing and winning are data points to further help you improve, and then suddenly there’s no negative result. It’s simple but making that shift was a really healthy change in perspective imo
Honestly, pretty miserable. A “promotion” ended up docking my partner’s pay (the difference in what they were making got rolled into benefits) and now we went from being totally fine to things being tremendously tight basically overnight. It’s been hard finding work on my end and I’m just incredibly stressed. I’ll be alright though, I hope.
are there any good open source alternatives for VSCode for people that don’t want to learn emacs/vim? I’ve been looking for a good code editor to replace it but I haven’t been impressed elsewhere
I’d advise looking into a cheap, older mechanical option as best you can and cleaning it up yourself. If you want it to last you’re better off investing either that time or that money into one to really make it count. Ergo boards are less in demand than a standard keyboard so they’ll tend more expensive but they’ll pay your hands back kindly
If you’re willing to shoot a bit over the $100 budget listed on the post, “Alice style” mechanical keyboards are getting quite popular. Here’s a cheaper option but certainly not the best, might be worth some research https://en.akkogear.com/product/acr-pro-alice-plus-mechanical-keyboard/
Honestly I’d love to try kagi but it’s so hard to de-googleify your life when you use Gmail and use an Android phone. Like, I’d like to, but it feels like such a pipe dream if I want to use tech I’ve grown accustomed to.
Especially bc kagi expects a subscription (it should, searching isn’t cheap and I like not being the product) but when money is tight it’s hard to justify paying for searching when Google and co are right there
speaking of grayjay, how is it? I remember it releasing and then heard a whole lot of nothing after the fact, is it a solid client? I’d love something like vanced that doesn’t require a whole bunch of fiddling to achieve a similar featureset