skye

what kinds of things do you like to make, grow, and learn?

i write, short stories mostly existential horror, and “essays” about anything i find interesting (that really just means i ramble about things i find interesting for several hundred-1000+ words on tumblr); also i made and maintain a personal website, i make mods and themes for things other people make cuz i don’t code enough to make anything of my own; sometimes i make videos but i’m generally too shy to do that regularly; i play video games; i collect plushies; and i recentlyish picked up making pixel art

i also want to get into crochet, cooking, and gardening but my time with those has so far mostly just been using social media to see what other people do. i mean i cook but wouldn’t classify how i do cooking as a hobby lol

i have adhd too, also i’m agoraphobic, and in addition to ideally being able to orbit around several hobbies i also just need things to fill in my time since i don’t get outside very often

i agree; communication is very complicated and for example even understandings of common phrases varies sometimes not just regionally but from person to person, so it makes sense to me that people in general often struggle to pick up on hints, especially the more subtle the hints are, and that’s no one’s fault. for hints in terms of sexual/romantic i think i would also probably factor in self esteem as depression and anxiety are epidemics in our society that are only getting worse as it becomes harder to maintain social lives as third places disappear. low self-esteem often comes with depression and anxiety and people who struggle with it may assume that no one would/could be interested in them or be flirting with them. idk, that at least described me for a long time when i was younger. in the case of my bf he’s also autistic and struggles to pick up on social cues in general, much less flirting

when we met, my bf never picked up any of my hints, and i gave him many. i mean we met online, had a lot in common, and got along really well right away. i mean he was exactly my type and i was very clear about that as we got to know each other lol. but i only hint at interest until i’m sure, and then i get direct, so i eventually asked him out. he seemed pretty embarrassed for not picking up on the hints afterward, especially the more direct ones, but i just thought he was pretty adorable for it. i’ve never really thought all men are necessarily bad at taking hints in particular i mean i have never put much thought into whether a particular gender is worse at picking up on hints but i’m a woman and i’ve dated and had situationships with men, women, enbies and more and and in hindsight i’d say i’ve been bad at picking up on hints and everyone’s been bad at picking up on my hints so probably everyone’s bad at it lol

i heard this too lol

specifically i heard that they see us as incompetent cats and want to take care of us x3

it was me using simpler phrasing in part because i couldn’t remember the details very well

but i was referencing an experiment where researchers wearing “threatening” and “non-threatening” masks interacted with and marked crows, and other crows in that area who they had not interacted with recognized them later. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0003347209005806 (however that crows tell stories is, as far as i know, only a popular interpretation, their official conclusion, at least of this experiment, is that crows are capable of long term memory retention and fine-feature discrimination)

and simple observations suggesting prairie dogs may have a very advanced language - which went viral in my online circles with people joking that they gossip about us, which probably just stuck with me because i think it would be very cute

i personally believe that animals most likely do communicate among each other and the complexities of their languages just varies, even if most are not obviously very complex. my personal beliefs are that communication is complicated and can happen through more than verbal/vocal language, animals are clearly capable of feeling complex emotions and pain which is enough for me personally to consider them sentient, and (again this is just my personal belief) i believe it’s probably better to treat them as if they are sentient until proven otherwise than the opposite. and just to be upfront and honest with others and myself about my possible biases, i believe in the Buddhist concept of Saṃsāra, and believe that that we’re all a part of the same cycle of death and rebirth

edit found some more info:

prairie dogs: https://www.cbc.ca/news/science/prairie-dogs-language-decoded-by-scientists-1.1322230

Researchers noticed that the animals made slightly different calls when different individuals of the same species went by. … so they conducted experiments where they paraded dogs of different colours and sizes and various humans wearing different clothes past the colony. They recorded the prairie dogs’ calls, analyzed them with a computer, and were astonished by the results.

“They’re (prairie dogs) able to describe the colour of clothes the humans are wearing, they’re able to describe the size and shape of humans, even, amazingly, whether a human once appeared with a gun,” Slobodchikoff said. The animals can even describe abstract shapes such as circles and triangles.

Also remarkable was the amount of information crammed into a single chirp lasting a 10th of a second. “In one 10th of a second, they say ‘Tall thin human wearing blue shirt walking slowly across the colony.’”

crows: https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/the-interesting-thing-that-crows-do-when-they-see-one-of-their-own-dead/2016/03/18/78d97a9e-ec48-11e5-b0fd-073d5930a7b7_story.html

“They know your body type. The way you walk,” Dyer said. “They’ll take their young down and say: ‘You want to get to know this guy. He’s got the food.’ ”

Scientists have known for years that crows have great memories, that they can recognize a human face and behavior, that they can pass that information on to their offspring.

that article also mentions that crows have been observed to make and use tools, which is something i knew but forgot to mention and is interesting and feels relevant to this conversation

Sorry for the confusion then! I suppose I place some value on life itself (or maybe more fitting in this discussion, on awareness itself)

Which is to say that for me, ending the life of a being who is aware is at least one of the worst things you can do. Like, if I were forced to choose between millions of years of suffering or immediate death, I’d probably pick the millions of years of suffering because at least I’d still be aware. Of course I might regret that decision later on but that’s where I’m at right now. But also I couldn’t imagine being tortured for millions of years and the toll that must have on someone. So torturing someone for millions of years has, for me, very similar moral weight to genocide. Again I don’t feel able to quantify them personally, and for me deciding which is ultimately worse is probably not possible. I’d guess the answer would vary from person to person based on how they weigh life itself vs experiences in life, and whether the conscious experience of being tortured is worse in their opinion than not existing anymore. I consider life valuable because I consider my life valuable (valuable to me, not necessarily to anyone else), and I consider my life valuable because I really enjoy the ability to think about and experience things. One of my favorite thing about us is that we look up into the sky and wonder, look down into the ocean and wonder, look forward in our future and wonder, look back on our past and wonder, that we can look at other people and wonder. That we can look at any of the above and love and write and sing. sentience might as well be magic lol. Having that taken away from me is the worst thing I can imagine happening to me, which might skew my perspective in conversations like this one. And idk if most people would agree with my reasons for valuing life.

i edited my comment a few times because i didn’t feel like i was making sense and being too rambly, it’s 6am (well 6:30am) and i haven’t slept (and cuz after i initially posted i read other comments and realized other people had said what i had said but better x3)

i didn’t mean to imply i thought you were saying genocide is worse than bullying a robot, it’s just that i was thinking about things that could be comparable or worse to me than torturing someone for millions of years and came up with genocide

i took crime to mean something morally bad

i mean i think this is a fun conversation, it’s something i think about a lot, i’m glad to talk about it with other people, sorry if i came across obtuse or pedantic or negative/hostile or anything

yeah! prairie dogs gossip; crows tell stories, have communities, and some of them even seem to understand money; whales mourn the deaths of other whales

sentience is trippy, and it’s always been questionable to me that we decided we’re the only sentient life on the planet

i already get emotionally attached to, like, roombas and those suitcases that connect to your phone and follow you around, i can’t wait to have a robo buddy

“Freedom is the right of all sentient beings.” - Optimus Prime

I don’t know if I’d consider it the worst crime ever committed in the history of the universe, but I would consider it very bad personally. I would personally value the life of that AI the same as I would value the life of a human, the same way I would value the life of anything sentient, so I would be against anyone treating an AI that way. Is it worse than genocides? idk maybe i don’t feel qualified to quantify the moral weight of things so big, but ya i’d definitely care x3

relatable :3

i’m similar but for me i prefer physical books because if i’m reading a physical book i’m probably not sitting near any of my devices so there’s less chance i’ll get distracted lol

but audio book is a strong second because ya i can do other stuff while listening to it, the same way i listen to podcasts and stuff

why does it make me uncomfortable

it’s like an uncanny valley fork

lol i just rewatched the blade runner episode of Bob’s Burgers last night. i never saw the movie!

I don’t remember where I found it though x3, probably Reddit. If I remember right it’s a screenshot from a game I’ve never played lol, but I liked the colors and I like space and I like the sort of surreal spaceman aesthetics

only when I inevitably drop it in water and it won’t boot anymore, except for when rice magically makes it boot again

Thanks, I think I’m over the worst of it, but still not feeling 100%

Having a lazy day curled up under blankets, cozy in bed, and having some pizza is the best lol

Hiya! Happy International Women’s Day! I recently got back from a long break from Lemmy, and really most other social media too, but my experience on here has been pretty good too. Generally I’d say it feels more friendly and positive than I remember Reddit feeling, and with generally more productive conversations in my experience.

And yeah we’ll probably just order in later too. I’ve been a bit sick lately so probably not much else

if you only think of friends as people you interact with in real life doing things in the real world then i guess yeah for you that wouldn’t fit your definition of friend

personally i think of friends as people whose company i enjoy, who i get along with really well, have a lot of things in common with, and talk with frequently about whatever we have going on in our lives or things that we like or find interesting. i’ve had many long-lasting, long-distance friendships with people online who i cherish very much, and i’m even in a long-term relationship that started online, and we lived on opposite coasts of the US, and i moved in with him after about a year. in terms of doing things together, for me it’s mostly just chatting and playing video games, but i’ve met some of the people i’ve met online in real life before, as we make plans to get together sometimes when possible.

but i have agoraphobia so socializing irl can be difficult for me because i don’t really get out of my house much, so online friends is usually my only option, so i might be a special case idk for sure. but i’d guess that a lot of people have similar experiences with online friendships

🙂 😡