• [email protected]@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    When in that state, it’s immensely difficult to understand what exactly is going wrong, let alone fix it. I still remember being an awkward idiot kid confused about my isolation, flailing at shadows and endlessly making a nuisance of myself by reveling in the discomfort my presence bred. Misery one way glass. Hope anon finds someone to pass him notes.

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      19 days ago

      ikr!, I’m still on this never-ending journey of self-improvement but I still cannot for the life of me not cringe out from my past self. I have a friend who is dealing with stuff I dealt with, probably worse, and I cannot convince him to change. He literally cannot fanthom that the way he is his problem, which he needs to address instead of blaming everything wrong with his life on others. How do we even help these people?

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        19 days ago

        It’s a bit like AA. Until they recognize the problem and desire to fix it, it’s fruitless for anyone outside to attempt to fix it. Therapy and gentle course corrections are about it.