the_itsb (she/her)

I love this! I feel this too.

I’m 41, so a lot of my age-peers are running up against the cumulative effect of decades of neglecting their bodies and starting to curse the aging process, but I’m secretly kinda loving it. I made a conscious choice to be more active in my 30s, and now I’m in the best shape of my life.

I have much less energy and so many fewer fucks to give, and this means I’ve had to learn to be strategic and learn when to cut out things - including relationships - that aren’t edifying.

I’m a traditionally cute petite cis woman, and I had fantasized my whole life about shaving my blonde curls off and freeing myself from those golden chains, so I finally buzzed it this spring, and it looks great. And I am in stealth mode all the time now!! Nobody ever recognizes me until they see me with my husband, it’s hilarious and awesome every time.

I know myself and my own capabilities better, so I am better about not getting myself in over my head, and I’m more able to ignore skeptics and naysayers. Most of the time, I no longer feel the need to be overly polite and accommodating to their desire to give me unsolicited advice, which is awesome.

I am having a tremendous amount of fun getting old, and I think you will too! I love your attitude. ✊

It sounds like you’ve never had the experience of being the woman used as a lesson, and I’m really glad for you. I’m sorry you think my lived experience is weird! Blessed be.

Maybe push him to try and become friends with a female coworker.

Please ask her before you use her to teach a lesson.

novelty comment bots don’t bother me much either as long as they’re not drowning out actual conversation

Same - honestly, I generally find them legitimately amusing! - but I worry that most Lemmy instances are too young/inactive for this kind of bot yet. I don’t think we’re past the tipping point where the people commenting will automatically outweigh the bots, and I don’t think those bots are fun unless they’re dramatically outweighed by normal human interaction. It’s not novel if that’s all the comment thread ever is, you know what I mean? And novelty is the true spark of humor imho; things usually have to be at least a little surprising to be actually funny.

The grammar bots were so annoying! I love good grammar as much as anyone, but really, what help are we actually adding to the world with the they’re/their/there bots, the your/you’re bots, the payed/paid bots, etc. I really can’t imagine those changed anyone’s behavior or spelling.

Direct link to Lionir’s comment on bots - it’s very near your comment in the discussion right now, but adding a link just in case these drift apart.

Maybe there could be a community on Beehaw where people could post about their bots and associated commands, so we could learn how they could be called into threads where they would be helpful?

I agree - these seem to me like very common-sense rules.

I hope you are having the BEST time! ❤️ May every lovely moment together stretch into blissful eternity for both of you.

people who bag groceries that aren’t cashiers also clean messes, gather shopping carts, face aisles etc,

I misread this at first as referring to the customers who bag their own groceries, and I was surprised that there were so many other people like me that are happy to bag their own groceries and will also pick up trash on their way into/out of/through the store and tidy up the cart situation when stashing theirs that it is noticed as a trend by employees and also that the others are tidying the shelves too…!!! And then it sunk in that you’re talking about the “cart pusher” job title, not my fellow Tidiness Fairy customers 😂🤦

It says a lot about your character that your reaction to your own hardship is that you want to work to make sure other people are protected from it. We’re lucky to have you in the world and on this instance. Thanks for being you.

Can you tell me more about the taste side effect you’re experiencing? What medication causes that? I’ve been having some weird mouth things since I started a medication a few months ago, but hadn’t thought to connect it until now.

I love that it went so well for you! Were you popular in high school? Were you still in touch with many people? Did you take many photos and were any of them recreations of fun shots from back in the day? What was the biggest pleasant surprise of the night? Did anybody go in a direction that totally shocked you, but in a good way?

I had a rough time in school (✨Undiagnosed Neurodivergence in Rural America✨) and have never had any interest in keeping up with anyone, but I find it marvelously fascinating to hear about different experiences, and honestly - I love spectating a reunion! 😂 I’ve gone to a couple class reunion functions with my husband for his class, and I really enjoyed seeing him interact with all his old friends and hear their stories. I reached out to a couple random people from my childhood/teen years last summer around my 40th to check in and thank them for their positive influence and friendship, but I think that’s the closest I’ll ever get to my own reunion.

I’m wishing you excellent digestion, effortless prioritization, energy, ease, and efficiency. ❤️

My Buff Orpington, Welsummer, and guinea chicks are all 2 weeks old today, and they are legitimately trying to fly around their enclosure even though none of them are fully fledged! It’s crazy, they are like little peeping popcorn, hopping and popping around. And they’re so funny! Somebody will occasionally find an extra long piece of pine shaving to carry around, and it starts a mad scramble as everybody else tries to catch them to steal it. 😂 I’m trying to figure out how to set up a livestream so my parents can watch them from their home. I’m also scrambling myself, trying to finish the coop and run before they outgrow the indoor enclosure.

My golden retriever is a perfect angel with them and loves to sit and watch them play. It’s hard to believe he’s only a year old, we just can’t get over how unbelievably good he is for his age. Idk if all goldens are magic angels or if we just got crazy lucky.

My 16yo is still not interested in taking the permit test or driving. He’s got my sense of caution, so I’m not really surprised. I can’t believe he’ll be a junior this year! And he’s dating, he and his partner have been together for a few months, and they’re so very good to each other. It’s so lovely to see him in love, cherishing someone and being cherished.

And my husband is almost fully recovered from Lyme! We might have social plans this weekend for the first time in a while. 🎉